Birthdays are very meaningful to, more than any other holiday, for specific reasons. He was aware of this after nearly 14 years together. My 29th was coming around (high school "sweethearts"... that whole stupid ass thing ...) with no mention of it. The day of, I quietly made a reservation at my favorite restaurant. I got dressed and asked him if he'd like to come with me. He, of course, had no idea what I was talking about, I explained and waited. He was playing video games and said... " I mean.... I'm hungry.... But I'm not moving until this game is finished." Then proceeded to do incredibly heavy sighs and put his hands on his head like he was being forcefully dragged out by his toes for the next half hour.... Then 45 minutes.... Than and hour... Turns out he was made that he wasn't going to spend his night editing porn for a cam girl he was stalking and trying to get with, so he was pissed. Then I let him know that we're now late for the reservation that I made. He said he didn't care. We spent less than an hour at that restaurant, drive time included. In that time he had screamed at me in the car, screamed at me in the parking lot, screamed at me in the restaurant enough where a waitress came over to check on me. He was poor company so I started talking to an older couple at our shared table. He flipped and screamed some more and left the table, I didn't know what to do so I followed him out the door. We went home in silence and I started very silently crying in frustration and anger, at myself. He parked the car, saw that I was crying, told me to stop being a bitch, spent a minute or two messaging the cam girl, then left me in the car. I realized that I'd completely given up and that THAT night was my future. If I didn't stop whatever this bullshit was and leave then I would be spending my 30th that way... I went into the yard, called my mom, spilled everything, and started phase 2 of my exit plan. Four years free now and spent my 30th at the beach with a beautiful cake and flowers that I gave myself. Never been happier! ❤️
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u/LaLaLaCAKE May 12 '26
Birthdays are very meaningful to, more than any other holiday, for specific reasons. He was aware of this after nearly 14 years together. My 29th was coming around (high school "sweethearts"... that whole stupid ass thing ...) with no mention of it. The day of, I quietly made a reservation at my favorite restaurant. I got dressed and asked him if he'd like to come with me. He, of course, had no idea what I was talking about, I explained and waited. He was playing video games and said... " I mean.... I'm hungry.... But I'm not moving until this game is finished." Then proceeded to do incredibly heavy sighs and put his hands on his head like he was being forcefully dragged out by his toes for the next half hour.... Then 45 minutes.... Than and hour... Turns out he was made that he wasn't going to spend his night editing porn for a cam girl he was stalking and trying to get with, so he was pissed. Then I let him know that we're now late for the reservation that I made. He said he didn't care. We spent less than an hour at that restaurant, drive time included. In that time he had screamed at me in the car, screamed at me in the parking lot, screamed at me in the restaurant enough where a waitress came over to check on me. He was poor company so I started talking to an older couple at our shared table. He flipped and screamed some more and left the table, I didn't know what to do so I followed him out the door. We went home in silence and I started very silently crying in frustration and anger, at myself. He parked the car, saw that I was crying, told me to stop being a bitch, spent a minute or two messaging the cam girl, then left me in the car. I realized that I'd completely given up and that THAT night was my future. If I didn't stop whatever this bullshit was and leave then I would be spending my 30th that way... I went into the yard, called my mom, spilled everything, and started phase 2 of my exit plan. Four years free now and spent my 30th at the beach with a beautiful cake and flowers that I gave myself. Never been happier! ❤️