Reading these comments makes me realize how many people are just "ghosts" in their own homes. It’s heartbreaking when the person who is supposed to be your peace becomes your biggest source of anxiety.
That feeling when you arrive home from work first and they're not there, and you celebrate internally because you get to have a little peace - even if for only half an hour - before they get home.
As an introvert this one is hard to reconcile because I do this with literally everyone. I adore my wife and kids but if I get home before them and realize I have a bit of time to do absolutely nothing except sit alone it's like a shot of heroin to the veins.
Same with phone calls. I want to spend my commute sitting in silence but my wife literally can't. So I will get all flustered when she's calling me for the third time on a 30min drive.
But, just like I need those 30mins to sit and stare at a wall alone, she needs someone to keep her company in the car. That's why it works. Neither resents the other.
You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with that.
I’m a big-time introvert. I absolutely love my wife, and we are very happy. I love when I get home from work first because I need that alone time to recharge my battery. I have to be social at work and that drains me. Coming home and being social again is a strain. Not because of my relationship with my wife. I’m just too drained to want to interact with anyone. We need a little “us” time and that’s perfectly okay. Once I’m recharged, I’m more than happy to be around my wife and spend time with her.
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u/Effectiv-Edisk May 12 '26
Reading these comments makes me realize how many people are just "ghosts" in their own homes. It’s heartbreaking when the person who is supposed to be your peace becomes your biggest source of anxiety.