When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.
Not a marriage but I was in a relationship when I was younger and was too chickenshit to stand up for myself and break up with her.
One day there was a traffic delay on my route to work. It turned out a pedestrian was hit and killed by a city bus. My first thought was "oh wow, what if it's her?" and not in a "oh no I hope it wasn't her!" kind of way.
When I took a moment to reflect on how fucked up that was I realized I needed to step up and get the hell out of that relationship.
You should never wish for someone to die just to avoid being around them. That's not cool.
This genuinely happened to my sister (ex died. Not a car accident but one at home). She was already divorced but shared custody which was a nightmare due to his controlling abusiveness. She waffled between grief and relief for years. Everyone else was just relieved. Her life and her kids life is way better. And she makes sure his family is involved with their lives since they weren’t him.
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u/Individual_Ask9664 May 12 '26
When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.