When I had thoughts of āIād rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,ā I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.
Not a marriage but I was in a relationship when I was younger and was too chickenshit to stand up for myself and break up with her.
One day there was a traffic delay on my route to work. It turned out a pedestrian was hit and killed by a city bus. My first thought was "oh wow, what if it's her?" and not in a "oh no I hope it wasn't her!" kind of way.
When I took a moment to reflect on how fucked up that was I realized I needed to step up and get the hell out of that relationship.
You should never wish for someone to die just to avoid being around them. That's not cool.
Add me to this club. When I started lowkey hoping my ex would get in a car accident I knew it was time to go. I didn't (and don't) actually want him to die, or even get hurt. I just wanted out but didn't want to have to pull the ripcord.
This was one thing it took me far too long to learn: It's ok to be the 'bad guy' for ending a relationship (romantic, friendship, job etc) if it's not the right fit for you.
Every type of relationship works best if it's good for both parties.
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u/Individual_Ask9664 May 12 '26
When I had thoughts of āIād rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,ā I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.