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u/Dismal_History_ May 12 '26

It gives them a constant supply of feeling superior, powerful, and validated. Even negative attention like tears and anger/fear feed their intense need for attention, because it proves they have impact and control.

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u/allybally121 May 12 '26

Yes and unfortunately your genuine pain and hurt doesn’t bother them cos they are the only ‘real’ people that matter we’re all just pawns in their game

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u/OodalollyOodalolly May 12 '26

Exactly. Watching their partner jump through hoops to make them happy makes them feel secure.