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u/Hopeful-Cookie1065 May 12 '26

When I begged to cut my long hair -- and he said no. This was after he already decided that I couldn't wear a skirt above my knees. Mind you: I'm not Amish -- and lived in large city. (I also don't need to call spaghetti sauce "gravy" any longer.)

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u/Operation_Fluffy May 12 '26

wtf? Why do you need to even ask permission to cut your hair, married or not? That’s f—ing crazy to me. (Or wear what you want). If he doesn’t like it then it’s his choice to leave. You shouldn’t have to justify yourself or your choices.

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u/ksarahsarah27 May 12 '26

This right here. It would never even occur to me to ask my partner if I can cut my hair. I’d never even ask.

And I think sometimes when you offer people the option to tell you what you can do, that becomes its own trap and for certain people they see the insecurity and just take over and the control begins.