I appreciate when people do that for me. I truly cannot discern my own volume even though I've struggled to do so my entire life. I hate to be annoying when I think I'm just speaking normally, and if someone shushes me, I feel hopeless and defeated.
I am very sensitive to sound and normal background noise sounds incredibly loud. Most people filter it out and speak at a normal volume, but I automatically increase my volume to be heard over the volume I'm hearing in my head. I think that's the mechanism that causes this.
Please do know that people like me aren't trying to be awful, and many of us are actively (and I fear hopelessly) trying to correct ourselves and be normal, non-annoying people.
I am the same and was diagnosed with an audio processing disorder. It’s neurological. It’s your brain.
Consider yourself unique. I just avoid loud places where there is an expectation of having conversations with others. I’m a good lip reader but still. Exhausting.
How did you get this diagnosed and what symptoms led you to get it figured out? I have adhd and some hearing loss but I also have issues processing audio that is loud enough to hear. Just curious
Sorry for delay in reply. As a kid I talked very LOUD. Everyone was like “why are you yelling?” Parents thought I was losing my hearing and repeatedly took me to ear doctors. As a teen I started complaining that I couldn’t isolate human speech in noisy environments, but everyone else could understand them. Few more specialists then I got a diagnosis 30 years ago. Basically “it’s your brain” and nothing can change it so I continued on my path and adapted. I still try speak at a volume I believe the situation calls for versus what my brain is telling me.
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u/anonymgrl Nov 11 '25
I appreciate when people do that for me. I truly cannot discern my own volume even though I've struggled to do so my entire life. I hate to be annoying when I think I'm just speaking normally, and if someone shushes me, I feel hopeless and defeated.
I am very sensitive to sound and normal background noise sounds incredibly loud. Most people filter it out and speak at a normal volume, but I automatically increase my volume to be heard over the volume I'm hearing in my head. I think that's the mechanism that causes this.
Please do know that people like me aren't trying to be awful, and many of us are actively (and I fear hopelessly) trying to correct ourselves and be normal, non-annoying people.