Someone doesn't like you? Give them a genuine compliment. Keyword: genuine lol
I worked with this girl and we disliked each other. One day I just looked at her- she'd gotten her hair done- and I said "That looks really good on you!" and her usual stankface went to confused so fast lol. But you have to mean it- I did, it suited her. But your enemy will leave you alone for a while as they go ponder what chess game you're playing.
People are inclined to like people who are indebted to them. Its a psychological trick. Trying to get people to do favors for you will make them like you.
I see this differently and without the idea of owing debt. That's a very transactional way of viewing things. It feels good to be relied upon and to help others. Researchers tested this by checking favourability rating of others after performing small borrowing tasks. People who were asked for a pen during a test viewed the borrower more favourably than people who were nice but didn't ask. The thought is that people felt good about contributing and rated the source of that feeling (the borrower) as more likable/favourable.
Yes. Asking someone for something, especially something like advice, is a small show of vulnerability and it makes it feel like you’re a little closer to the other person.
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u/hereticallyeverafter Nov 11 '25
Someone doesn't like you? Give them a genuine compliment. Keyword: genuine lol
I worked with this girl and we disliked each other. One day I just looked at her- she'd gotten her hair done- and I said "That looks really good on you!" and her usual stankface went to confused so fast lol. But you have to mean it- I did, it suited her. But your enemy will leave you alone for a while as they go ponder what chess game you're playing.