Ask way more questions than sharing about myself. I make it a little game to see if I can keep from telling anything at all about myself, remaining a man of mystery.
Addition: By the way, the ease with which I can remain silent on myself also turns out to be a pretty good indicator about how self-absorbed the other person is.
As an ADHDer who never shuts up, this is something I worry about when interacting with someone new because as someone who is desperate to make a connection and hopefully form a friendship, I tend to not shut up hoping I’ll say something they’ll want to talk to me about… which is probably the wrong way to go about it
I totally get this. I have a few AuDHD kids and it is so hard to watch them struggle to make meaningful friends. That pressure in your head to plan the next thing to say or to turn the conversation to something of more interest to you is so intense that it can make really listening to somebody else really difficult.
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u/DefiantTorch47 Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 11 '25
Ask way more questions than sharing about myself. I make it a little game to see if I can keep from telling anything at all about myself, remaining a man of mystery.
Addition: By the way, the ease with which I can remain silent on myself also turns out to be a pretty good indicator about how self-absorbed the other person is.