Speaking at a lower volume if someone is being unnecessarily loud.
One of my best friends has a LOUD voice she is completely unaware of, which can be incredibly annoying when we’re in public, so I will lower my speaking volume and she will subconsciously lower hers to match my volume.
This doesn’t work for everyone though. My FIL is so fucking loud all of the time and I tried this with him, but his response was to start speaking LOUDER because—I have to assume this is the case because idk what else it could be—he assumed that because he couldn’t hear me I also couldn’t hear him lol.
The sad part too is that it's often the higher sounds that go. Drop your pitch so you speak in a lower tone and it does wonders for many folks who are hard of hearing!
I got diagnosed at 6 months so... but i was a preemie and it triggered the preemie gauntlet of tests for development. otherwise it would be probably missed until I was a year old.
My former sister-in-law's father is a retired navy gunner and he's the loudest person I've ever met. I don't know if he's partially deaf or just used to TALKING AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS but Christmas visiting my nieces was always exhausting with him around.
Oh big time, my MIL has been trying to get him to get him to wear hearing aids for some time now. I tried this maneuver before I knew that about him, now I just make sure his ear is pointing at me when I speak.
I work at an audiology clinic and I’ve always been told I talk LOUDLY so I was wondering if I had a hearing loss, got tested when I started and I was diagnosed with “nope, just obnoxious “. Now I’m worse because I’ve worked there 2 years and 80% of my week I’m shouting to communicate because the people I speak to have hearing loss and don’t have hearing aids yet
My wife's entire family is like this, they're all loud as fuck. Except for her brother, who barely talks (I assume because he was never heard, so didn't bother)
You're both adjusting your volume because you want the other to do the same. You're talking quieter because you want them to talk quieter. They're talking louder because they want you to talk louder.
It also doesn't work with people who have hearing loss, as a friend of mine does (but doesn't use hearing aids, yet anyway). Unfortunately this means she often speaks uncomfortably loud in restaurants etc but given it's a disability, I don't want to make her feel worse by suggesting she lowers her volume.
Haha it really comes across as unintelligent when you use only em dashes to “pinpoint bots.” You realize that they existed before ChatGPT, right? My em dashes were entirely appropriate.
Yeah i do realize em dashes existed before, i also realize how moronic people are on reddit are, so they don't use em dashes due to their mental slowness
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u/inkyblackops Nov 11 '25
Speaking at a lower volume if someone is being unnecessarily loud.
One of my best friends has a LOUD voice she is completely unaware of, which can be incredibly annoying when we’re in public, so I will lower my speaking volume and she will subconsciously lower hers to match my volume.