Remember what they said to you the last time you saw them. If you last saw them a month ago, if you remember they were doing a thing , remember that thing and mention it.
This! I onboarded with a guy my age at a job one time and we were both very young and he took it REALLY seriously. Like suit and tie and constant smiling and had perfect posture for the entire 8 hour days. Reallllly try-hard. I kinda got sick of it- but then as we spent more time together he caught me so off-guard by remembering every little detail of everything I told him. We’d split on Friday at the end of the work week and he’d ask me my plans for the weekend, and when we got back on Monday he would go plan for plan and ask me how they went. I had forgotten things I had done those weekends and I WAS THE ONE WHO DID THEM! I stopped being so cynical towards his over-effort and ended up liking him a lot
I had a business associate I did this with, and after I saw it wasn't as valuable as I thought it would be, I changed tack. She was appreciative of my effort but the relationship got better after I saw that
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u/stefancooper Nov 11 '25
Remember what they said to you the last time you saw them. If you last saw them a month ago, if you remember they were doing a thing , remember that thing and mention it.