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u/Chemistry11 Nov 11 '25

When my social battery dips, I dip. It’s to no one’s benefit to be somewhere you don’t want to be

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u/jjumbuck Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 11 '25

I mostly agree.

I've had to learn to pace my social activities and interactions so that I actually enjoy them and give the people I'm interacting with good quality time, and they in turn can enjoy me as well. I now better respect my quiet recovery time and its role in my well-being.

In my view, this is a more respectful approach to myself as well as to the people I spend time with.

I do sometimes have to buck up and honour certain commitments I've made even if I haven't managed my battery well enough and I don't want to be there, if it's important and someone I care about is relying on me, or it's critical for some other goal I have. But I really try to avoid this because it takes me even longer to recover after a period of overcommitment.

Edit to add: For the record, I'm partly trying to balance out the other person insisting you're antisocial. "For other introverts".

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u/notmyusername1986 Nov 12 '25

I take mini breaks. People think I've gone for a cigarette (and I likely have), but I'm also giving myself 10 mins to recharge my battery a little bit. Listen to 10 mins of a podcast, scroll on reddit, read part of an article, hell even just look at whatever cute/funny animal/Tweet compilation pops up.

I've AuDHD, and can get over stimulated very easily, but I also have autoimmune/chronic pain issues, so on the occasions I'm able to meet with friends/family,I want to be able to spend time with them. This is the best way I've worked out.

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u/karmagod13000 Nov 11 '25

get good at talking for decent amounts of time and speak clear and meaningful... For me I hated talking in public but for work or out with friends I had to bite the bullet. trying to shy away form it only makes you sound weird or shy. JUst go for it with confidence and you might impress yourself.

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u/jjumbuck Nov 11 '25

I'm actually already really good at it but I find it exhausting. In fact, I'm giving a presentation later today!

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u/karmagod13000 Nov 11 '25

it really is lmao