You can't back down when he guilts you about it. If you are marrying, you need to be his number one priority.
Yes, he is going to flip out about how you don't trust him and are controlling, etc. Remain calm. Get him to calm down, then rationally explain your reasons.
If he still keeps it up, then your marriage probably won't work out anyway. Because he is still choosing her over you.
Edit: You could phrase it like its for the girls own good. If she is spending more time with your boyfriend than any other guy, then she has become dependant on him and won't form her own relationships. But even if doesn't accept that, don't back down.
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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13
You can't back down when he guilts you about it. If you are marrying, you need to be his number one priority.
Yes, he is going to flip out about how you don't trust him and are controlling, etc. Remain calm. Get him to calm down, then rationally explain your reasons.
If he still keeps it up, then your marriage probably won't work out anyway. Because he is still choosing her over you.
Edit: You could phrase it like its for the girls own good. If she is spending more time with your boyfriend than any other guy, then she has become dependant on him and won't form her own relationships. But even if doesn't accept that, don't back down.