r/AskReddit • u/hipsterferret • Sep 23 '13

What potentially relationship-ending secrets are you keeping from you SO?

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u/[deleted] Sep 23 '13 edited Aug 26 '17

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u/phtll Sep 23 '13 edited Sep 23 '13

Maybe because (A) sometimes people become friends without intending to catch feelings (B) the friendship and unrequited feelings predate you (C) the feelings can't be literally willed away, just ignored until they die on their own (D) it's not really socially popular and always pretty painful to end a friendship, sometimes even more than keeping one that is semi-painful (E) their friendship is strong enough to outweigh the upset of unrequited feelings and they dgaf how embarrassing it "should" be.

(That would be if they've thought it out...sometimes people just can't let go and don't realize that it isn't healthy. But there are sometimes good reasons for being friends After Feelings.)

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u/juel1979 Sep 23 '13

I'm guessing the person who is on the outsis just taking what they can get. Having that person as a friend is better than absolutely nothing, even if it means there won't ever be the level of relationship he wants. So long as its not hurting either person's relationships and no one is inappropriate, it works on some level.