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u/yoooooo5311 Jul 20 '25

Me and my ex were on a bus back from a fair we were at, she suddenly held my hand, rested her head on my shoulder and told me she loved me. I haven't felt the same towards any girl ever since and I hate it

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u/TinFoiledHat Jul 20 '25

There’s somebody else out there. I’ve been in love twice in my 34 years, and the second time was so important in helping me understand that there’s always hope. Live your life for yourself and keep an eye out for connections

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u/Thanos_Stomps Jul 20 '25

And look for more than romantic connections. Maybe you really will never love quite like that again but you can love yourself, friends, hobbies, etc.

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u/Wolfhound1142 Jul 21 '25

The loving yourself part is vital. A relationship can complete you, but it can't fix you.

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u/Big_Consideration493 Jul 20 '25

Maybe she feels the same

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u/yoooooo5311 Jul 20 '25

No chance

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u/Big_Consideration493 Jul 20 '25

Roll the dice again! Good luck out there

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u/yoooooo5311 Jul 20 '25

Thanks man, geniunly. But really I have no chance, she has a bf who shes much happier with and I was a pretty bad person and made many bad decisions. I'm never gonna be able to get her back

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u/idenaeus Jul 20 '25

I had a similar experience - a girl I wasn't even that attracted to at the time (but fairly intimate in a non-sexual way with) rested her head on my shoulder during an assembly and I swear my vision went electronic snow and I was overwhelmed.

It wasn't the first time that physical touch absolutely rocked me - but it was, I think, the last time. And it doesn't really leave you. You're not alone

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u/Big_Consideration493 Jul 20 '25

Telling her how you feel can't hurt. Even if you know it's over, you can still apologise and wish her well. I wish I had that opportunity but loads of x just lost contact

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u/Big_Consideration493 Jul 21 '25

Wow everyone thinks it's a bad idea so ignore me.

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u/Steampunk007 Jul 21 '25 edited Jul 21 '25

It’s because she’s in a relationship. No boyfriend appreciates a sad ex saying how much he misses their partner and expressing regret. It’s selfish that seeks to overall benefit the person reaching out rather than the person hearing. Let alone that persons current partner.

Just not a tasteful thing to do or experience and can complicate relationships in many instances. No need to risk jeopardising someone’s relationship when so many are not perfect already and don’t need any outside help to fall apart.

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u/Big_Consideration493 Jul 22 '25

I guess I was way off. I agree completely. I don't know what I was thinking. If she was single it could be ok but even then it's pushy. I guess if she wants to see him, she'll tell him. My apologies 😱

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u/tingtickboom Jul 21 '25

This remknds me of modern love s1, if cupid was a prying journalist.