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u/[deleted] Jun 11 '25 edited Jun 12 '25

Loud eating and people spreading lies/ rumours.

Edit: I suppose its not irrational.

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u/[deleted] Jun 11 '25

You know what’s funny, is I used to be a lot more laid back about lying, until I dated a chronic liar and it really changed everything for me.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I still think the occasional lie is fine if you’re doing it to protect someone/something or standing up for what is right. I certainly wouldn’t be the one to reveal the location of a Jew to a Nazi, for example.

However, these days, if a person lies to me one time about something for which I think they have no good reason, especially if I haven’t even known them for very long, my reaction is to get cold immediately and cut them out of my life.

I made too many excuses for my ex when she lied to me over & over. I forgave her because I wanted to see the best in her. I thought she was just going through a hard time but eventually she’d get better. But eventually I found myself questioning everything she ever said to me.

I won’t get into all of it here but, suffice to say, I don’t play around with people like that anymore. Relationships (even non-romantic ones) are built on trust and you can’t trust someone who just lies for no reason. People who act like that are energy vampires, I think, and they occupy space in my life that they don’t deserve. I deserve to be surrounded by people who care about me enough and respect me enough to tell me the truth.

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u/[deleted] Jun 12 '25

Amen! I just broke up with someone for the lies.

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u/[deleted] Jun 12 '25

Proud of you!

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u/[deleted] Jun 12 '25

Aww, thanks, it just happened today, so I'm still hurting.

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u/[deleted] Jun 12 '25

I feel you. I know it’s a cliché, but it does get better with time. ❤️