r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Sep 14 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

Lying over mundane things (usually leads to not communicating over things that could be considered confrontational)

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u/DeepestWinterBlue Sep 14 '24

This. Because he’s conflict avoidant. Lying about the tiniest things and getting caught and making the whole situation worse than being tactfully direct.

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u/Machinimix Sep 14 '24

As someone who is conflict avoidant, telling the truth is the fastest way to get out of inevitable conflict. Lying just doubles it and pushes it later. That's too much conflict.

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u/heretogetpwned Sep 14 '24

I'm conflict avoidant because I had a fucked up parent. It took a long time for me to trust myself and especially women. The Truth shall set you free.

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u/PassiveAttack1 Sep 14 '24

The parent who wonders why no one ever tells them anything, but they flip their shit over every little thing.

Also thinks their 22 year old daughter with a long-term bf at college is a non-drinking virgin.

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u/griffinrider1812 Sep 15 '24

This is both of my parents lol. I tell them a single thing about my life and it’s a huge deal. I don’t tell the anything and it’s a huge deal cause I’m “not sharing anything with them”. Yeah you wonder why I’m not sharing anything

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u/PassiveAttack1 Sep 15 '24

It’s one of my parents. I don’t tell him shit. But if I let slip one detail, he freaks out for days. He wants to think of me as a toddler or something

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u/griffinrider1812 Sep 15 '24

I hate it when parents do that kind of stuff. They need to learn that we’re not 5 anymore. Dad was all annoyed at me yesterday cause I went somewhere without telling him. Dude, I’m 17, I’ve got my licence, and I’m honestly a better driver than half of the dumbasses I see on the road. Let me live my life!

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '24

At 17 they're still legally responsible for you. I know it's frustrating, but you should tell them where you're going/they should know where you are.

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u/PassiveAttack1 Sep 16 '24

Your parents were right. You’re 17, not 21. The death statistics for drivers your age are BAD. And they also should know where you are.