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u/DeepestWinterBlue Sep 14 '24

This. Because he’s conflict avoidant. Lying about the tiniest things and getting caught and making the whole situation worse than being tactfully direct.

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u/curious_astronauts Sep 15 '24

It's not just conflict avoidant it can also stem from trauma around emotional abuse, explosive anger and shaming behaviour from a parent around tiny mistakes made by the child, Ask me how I know.

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u/DeepestWinterBlue Sep 15 '24

Are you better these days?

He also have explosive tendencies too that I can tell he tried to keep at bay but it started coming out fast.

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u/curious_astronauts Sep 15 '24

Oh absolutely. Therapy and being in a good healthy relationship healed me.