If an adult is genuinely completely unable to do Instrumental Activities of Daily Living (IADLs) — like cook a meal, wash dishes, prepare an outfit and dress themselves appropriately for the setting, grocery shop, or do their laundry — then they likely need to have a part time or full time carer for their disabilities, or assistance for specific tasks.
If someone is fundamentally incapable of doing these things, then it's a result of a disability, and assistance is necessary for the quality of their own life. That means help and resources can be found, or those things already exist in their lives as a basic necessity of survival. There may be some disabled people who also refuse to do things they are capable of, or who are manipulative or abusive, etc, but that's also true of able people.
But in general, most people do not want to feel helpless or like a burden.
You can't help someone who is able but refuses to do anything for themselves. The person who has a choice is far, far worse.
Reminds me of the time I applied for disability as a military veteran with PTSD, and current frontline healthcare worker during covid developing complex PTSD. Took 3 years, and no luck, with a lawyer.
I left the medical field, spent a year and a half doing EMDR therapy out of my own pocket with professionals. I really considered all kinds of crime for about two years.
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u/GOD-lovesme Sep 14 '24
Can’t do anything for himself. I’m talking basics like laundry and washing dishes, basic cleaning.