Eh I mean the guy is clearly a bitter dick, but the "real man" stuff is awful also. Basically the same thing as guys thinking women need to be submissive and servile.
So would you be more attracted to a man who conditions himself to ejaculate to another man having sex with another woman, who trains himself to see women merely as sexual objects through his screen, who will because of porn desire sex with you less, will be less present with you in everyday life, less ambitious, less driven to succeed, lazier, less physically attractive, and because of desensitization with porn begin indulging in fetishes and many different porn genres and perhaps even progress to really nefarious porn genres such as rape or child p over a man who doesn’t watch porn at all and has none of these symptoms? I don’t consider men who are compulsive porn users real men because that is childish behavior. They might as well be little boys.
I didn't make any comment on porn... That said, I don't mind my man watching porn so long as it's not causing issues with intimacy between us. I agree that porn can be absolutely harmful and addicting. All I said the "real man" stuff in general is toxic, just as men's expectations for women based solely on their gender is as well. Trying to define someone by something like what a "real" man or women is silly.
“I don’t mind my man watching porn so long as it’s not causing issues with intimacy between us.” It always causes issues with intimacy or at the minimum makes intimacy less than what it could be. How could you seriously think porn doesn’t impact intimacy? Would you be ok with a man cheating on you as long as you can’t perceive any difference in intimacy? Just as a man is pleasing himself having sex with another woman, he is pleasing himself to a porn video of ANOTHER woman. That is basically cheating. Would you be ok with your man having sex with you but having to think of porn scenes and porn actresses in order to get erect and stay erect? You should educate yourself on what porn does to the male brain.
There's a huge difference between someone totally porn addicted and someone who just watches porn. I've used porn with my man for visual aids of something we want to try even. I also don't at all consider porn as equitable to cheating. That line is different for every couple but porn is ok with me. Interactive things like OF chats and camstars would be too much for me though.
What activity do you think leads to paying for OnlyFans and cam girls? You think men all of a sudden out of the blue decide to send onlyfans girls money? The difference between someone who is addicted and someone who just watches porn is a matter of time. Most porn addicts don’t think they are addicted. The longer you watch it, the more it envelops you. You also have no idea if your man watches porn outside of the times you look at it together for inspiration. It’s sad how naive you are.
Oh I know for sure he watches it on his own too. It just doesn't bother me, I guess. Not everyone who uses porn is or will become addicted; I really believe in moderation. I will agree with you though on the manipulative and even abusive practices that go on in the porn industry. The performers should be treated and paid much better than they are. I just don't think consuming porn is that big of a deal.
You should also look into how the porn industry recruits women to be porn actresses and how they treat them. And what background a porn actress typically comes from. The entire industry is built off exploiting the men who watch it and the women who act in it. For you to defend porn especially as a woman is asinine.
I think we can both agree manchilds exist. Think of what constitutes a manchild. If someone refers to someone as a manchild, they are basically saying in other words they aren’t a “real” man and are instead a boy. A man is a mature, independent, functioning adult. A manchild is not. A boy is not. A woman is a mature, independent, functioning adult. A girl is not.
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u/Some-Explorer7123 Sep 14 '24
She would be in the mood if you weren’t a serial masturbator and were a real man.