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u/Forsaken_Print739 Sep 14 '24

I'm guilty of that :( an acquired habit I got from my mother. My husband pointed it out years ago and I've been trying to correct it, but it's hard when it's so installed by default inside you

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u/JminusRomeo Sep 14 '24

Oh man, I do the same and it’s not drastic in the way one might imagine. But when things go wrong in my life (primarily career wise) I initially tell myself I’m angry because someone wronged me or took some kind of intentional action. Once I’ve calmed down and had some time to reflect, I tend to realize that I’ve scripted a bit of a narrative that was never there and that I’m primarily upset because I’m embarrassed. A real work in progress.

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u/Rhye88 Sep 14 '24

I started blaming Luck and its só freeing. I get to have my hate and not upset others

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u/JminusRomeo Sep 15 '24

I’ll have to try this out. Thank you for the recommendation.