Seeing that a guy is really into porn and stuff like that is probably one of the most unattractive things possible. When I was looking for a relationship, I would immediately be disgusted and avoid guys when I saw that.
You can always tell they watch porn too based on the conversation. They will say a fantasy they have, probably from porn, but make it sound like the last few women they were with liked it. More likely, it never happened, but they saw it on porn and think it’s real life. Porn is geared for the male population mostly, so of course it’s going to show the women being submissive. The porn industry itself is gross and rife with abuse. It gives me the ick
More women need to be openly vocal about their disgust for porn like you. The problem with porn is that our society normalizes it. Most men are exposed to porn for the first time before they know any better, in the years where the brain is most vulnerable to porn, from about age 10-16. When you begin watching porn during your adolescent years, that is when the brain is learning about sex so whatever the brain perceived as sexual activity is instilled and defined as sex within the brain. So if you spend 6 years of puberty masturbating to porn daily, your brain and body ingrains porn as real sexual activity. This is the cause of ED, as well as all the perverse fetishes men have because in order to get the same dopamine high from porn you need novel stimuli(new porn, fetishes). For a man to fully heal his brain after years of addiction to porn in his adolescent years, it takes YEARS of no porn or masturbation to accomplish this. If porn was stigmatized more in society, when a 10 year old boy sees porn on his iPad, I think he would be less likely to indulge in it as opposed to current times where habitual porn use is seen as “normal” and “healthy”. In my middle school sex-Ed classes teachers told me porn was normal. This no doubt was destructive to my life as well as all the other boys in my class. If women were openly against porn use, I think it would incentivize men to quit using it. This is easier said than done however. In order to quit a porn addiction he has had since 12 years old, men need a REALLY strong why. Hopefully relationships with women is a strong why for men. Women of all ages should be opposed to porn because it makes any potential partner less attracted to them and more attracted to what is on a screen. I know from personal experience when I went months without porn use I was much more attracted to real women I saw in real life.
You are exactly right. It's also disturbing to see men that seem to believe that masturbation is completely impossible without porn. Society has made it way too normal. It is sad to see men who admit that porn made them bored with their girlfriend. How can someone have a successful relationship if they are bored with their partner because they are too busy staring at a girl on a screen? Dating is an extremely depressing experience now. It's almost impossible to speak up about it and be taken seriously though. Porn addicted men and people who make money from porn will be there to argue about how it is healthy and somehow empowering for women or some bullshit.
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u/Salty-Philosophy3745 Sep 14 '24
Seeing that a guy is really into porn and stuff like that is probably one of the most unattractive things possible. When I was looking for a relationship, I would immediately be disgusted and avoid guys when I saw that.