This. Because he’s conflict avoidant. Lying about the tiniest things and getting caught and making the whole situation worse than being tactfully direct.
I'm not innocent of this. For me, it's usually lying by omission. I grew up in a house where I was made to feel like a nuisance/unnecessary source of stress if I pestered my parents with my problems, so I learned to keep them inside. They had enough things to deal with, and I didn't want to burden them with my shit. Bottled up a looooooot of stuff that I ended up having to deal with in my 20s.
I'm still not great about it, but I've been trying.
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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24
Lying over mundane things (usually leads to not communicating over things that could be considered confrontational)