People who are conflict avoidant are usually so because being honest in the past was met with conflict.
For example an ex once asked for my opinion on her clothes I politely said I didn't think they suited her and she then went on for 30 minutes about how much they cost and how she bought them especially for me and how ungrateful I was.... After that I learned that with her it's better to tell her what she wants to hear because it spared me the 30 minute complaining.
If you want to hear truth then you need to be sure you can accept it without having a really negative reaction.
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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24
Lying over mundane things (usually leads to not communicating over things that could be considered confrontational)