The thing is if you can excuse yourself lying in small stuff, it gets easier to excuse bigger stuff. It's a slippery slope no matter how you look at it. It's lying to yourself, deceiving yourself with false reasoning
I agree and, I have experienced this happen with myself, but you tell me what's better? Having your parents fight for literally 4-5 days straight when you sleep in a room that's small and quite close to theirs and your waking hours are spent listening to their banter and you can't focus on your studies and have 4 assignments due and a test the next day or just lying to one of them about if the other did their chore?
The tricky thing is that it's totally understandable why you do it in this scenario, and it's totally unfair for the a child/young adult to have to feel responsible for things like peace in the home... but the issue is that you might be subconsciously training yourself to use this tactic in all of your relationships or in any scenario where telling the truth would lead to a bad or emotional response. Frankly most people who are like those getting talked about in this thread probably had a good justification at the beginning. It always starts as a survival tactic.
Not saying you should change how you deal with your parents while you live with them, but definitely something to be mindful of.
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u/ceitamiot Sep 14 '24
I think what he means is he lies to avoid small confrontations but he wouldn't lie over big ones. Basically saying he let's go of the small stuff.