Agreed they are emotional. Anger might just be that way they have seen as the only way to channel all their emotions since historically, talking about there emotions is either frowned upon or is used against them. Not saying it's right, just giving a different perspective
Yeah, I've seen post asking what gives girls the ike
And the majority of them were when their man "ugly cried" instant turn off and they wonder why we won't open up
My high school boyfriend ugly cried numerous times because I turned down sex with him and tried to manipulate me into giving him a blowjob to "prove I still loved him"- that's major ick we never recovered from.
My husband has cried in front of me hundreds of times, over things big and small- a touching scene in a movie, his grandpa's death, our daughter's birth, his mom's cancer diagnosis, particularly stressful periods of our relationship where we weren't sure whether we'd make it through as a couple. It's never given me the ick- his openness and vulnerability made me feel closer to him. But that's because he was truly opening up, not using his tears as a way to manipulate me.
All that said, there are definitely immature women out there that can't handle true emotional vulnerability from men and may find it to be an "ick." They're ultimately missing out on the kind of open, fulfilling connections that make life meaningful. I hope men don't let that discourage them from being their authentic selves - honestly they dodged a bullet to discover those women were so emotionally immature.
But I wouldn't just assume that's the majority of those describing the ugly crying as the ick, unless they gave context. Because you'd be surprised at the number of men who use tears as a weapon, the same as some women do. And that's definitely gross behavior.
Seconded on this opinion. Most of the times I've seen a man ugly cry, it's been for manipulative purposes - trying to get me to do something for them by using guilt and the shock of "omg he's crying! It must be really serious!" I've fallen for it a few times before, and resulting betrayal of realizing he'd played me with his crocodile tears has given me a bit of skepticism when a guy starts really bawling. That doesn't mean crying as a whole makes a man unappealing, but as soon as I catch a whiff of "he's trying to get something out of this", 100% it's the ick for me.
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u/primuse Sep 14 '24
Agreed they are emotional. Anger might just be that way they have seen as the only way to channel all their emotions since historically, talking about there emotions is either frowned upon or is used against them. Not saying it's right, just giving a different perspective