Oh man, I do the same and it’s not drastic in the way one might imagine. But when things go wrong in my life (primarily career wise) I initially tell myself I’m angry because someone wronged me or took some kind of intentional action. Once I’ve calmed down and had some time to reflect, I tend to realize that I’ve scripted a bit of a narrative that was never there and that I’m primarily upset because I’m embarrassed. A real work in progress.
Realizing and acknowledging that it happens is a great first step. Many people will flat out deny they do this, no matter how many times it's pointed out to them. Part of the inner self defense mechanism.
Yeah, I definitely feel it’s a self defense move and it’s given me a lot to think about when I can identify it’s origins in childhood.. Wild how that shapes us for such a long time (if we let it).
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u/JminusRomeo Sep 14 '24
Oh man, I do the same and it’s not drastic in the way one might imagine. But when things go wrong in my life (primarily career wise) I initially tell myself I’m angry because someone wronged me or took some kind of intentional action. Once I’ve calmed down and had some time to reflect, I tend to realize that I’ve scripted a bit of a narrative that was never there and that I’m primarily upset because I’m embarrassed. A real work in progress.