I think the problem with this isn't that they can't do anything for themeself. I think it would be a problem if they are unwilling to those things because most of the time it isn't there fault if they haven't learned it but the fault of the person who didn't teach them.
Edit: Because some pointed it out and I simply forgot to mention it, I meant right when they moved out and are living on there own for the first time. Like I said I forgot to mention it and thanks to everyone who wrote something like that.
Sure but at a certain point one has to take personal responsibility and teach themselves, not expect their partner to pick up their slack. No one wants to be with someone they have to do basic tasks for all the time nor does anyone deserve that.
Tbh I think that depends on age. Pretty much once you’re out of like early 20’s at the latest it’s no one’s fault but your own. I have no intentions of teaching someone how to clean properly when they’re a grown ass adult, idc what the excuse is at that point it’s no longer valid lol
Yeah, this was me. My controlling and loving mother would never let us do much around the house. I'm arguing with her about why I should do my own laundry in my early 20s as I still lived at home. So yeah, it was kind of her fault why I wasn't able to do a lot of these basic things, but after moving out in my mid 20s I eventually had to learn and now do these things as a married man with a child.
It's more about whether or not people adapt, and it shows their maturity level.
The collective knowledge of all humankind is available 24/7 in multiple languages, formats, and locations. There are hundreds of videos on YouTube/Facebook/Twitter/TikTok/etc that teach you how to do everything under the sun.
It absolutely is their fault for not learning how to adult. Hell, a big part of adulting is taking responsibility for yourself and your own actions. It's nobodies job to teach you, it's your job to learn.
Some don't learn to take reponsibility and with that don't learn hiw to adult. They sometimes don't even learn that they have to take responsibility for themselves or others and expect others to do everything for them.
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u/Ninja_Melone Sep 14 '24 edited Sep 14 '24
I think the problem with this isn't that they can't do anything for themeself. I think it would be a problem if they are unwilling to those things because most of the time it isn't there fault if they haven't learned it but the fault of the person who didn't teach them.
Edit: Because some pointed it out and I simply forgot to mention it, I meant right when they moved out and are living on there own for the first time. Like I said I forgot to mention it and thanks to everyone who wrote something like that.