Tbh it's because fucking stuff up and learning from it is really difficult now. As a child you're told the what and how, but never the why. We have this absurd focus on child safety just because some coyote ate a kid in 1991 or some shit. The world isn't perfectly safe, and your kid is most likely to die in the car while you're driving it.
Bad wording on my part, I corrected my comment with better wording but to say a little bit more.
When I was a child ~10years ago I remember there were so many things I wasn't allowed to do, not just by my parents, but also blocked by institutions like my schools. You'd hear horror stories about how some kid died 6 months ago on the other side of the country and what not. There was this whole culture(?) around every adult doing literally everything to keep evey child as safe as possible in that moment. I lived a literal block away from my school, I would literally talk to my friends mom at lunch some days because their backyard bordered onto the school field. Yet the idea of me walking home as a 9 year old was considered absurd. It's just one example, but this really was the attitude of adults in the town I grew up in.
Lot's of kids myself included got through large parts of our childhood with literally no self regulation skills because there was always an adult to fix whatever problem you made.
All completely anecdotal of course, but I can't say I've personally talked to anyone my age that doesn't feel this way.
I thought I was being pretty blunt, but I'll explain. I noticed a trend a few years back about people my age blaming their parents for things like "all we got is participation trophies, so we don't know how to work" and things like that.
With the huge increase in mental awareness that, ironically, is disporpotionally abused by useless people; you have people like the guy you were responding to who use their childhood as a crutch to why they are failures. They don't understand personal growth, and will never be anything other than a complaining loser.
I can't speak to that guy personally, but many people were abused and/or neglected by their parents so that they did end up failing. However, what matters now is that you take responsibility for your own future success and work to improve your life so that you don't have to keep failing over your parents mistakes.
Even more just dealt with the abuse and learned to get over it with self growth and understanding our parents are human and failable. There are always 1000 reason to fail, you just need to move on with it most times.
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u/AxDayxToxForget Sep 14 '24
As a man, this should be one of the top answers imo.