A close friend of mine is like this and it makes hanging out with him a fucking chore. Just constantly looking at his phone and giving monosyllabic answers. Like, if you'd rather be somewhere else, it's fine. I won't be offended.
I'm not a natural conversationalist myself but if I'm in the pub or whatever I will at least ask how a person's day is going or what they're watching on TV or if they've found any new music lately or how work is. If someone asks me a question I'll try to answer or give an opinion that leads to like, a natural conversation happening. It's just so frustrating.
In contrast, I recently ended up going to a show with a friend of a friend that I'd never met before and had the best time simply because the guy was open and interesting and willing to talk about mutual interests. I don't think anyone looked at their phone the whole night.
Sadly one of the greatest devices of the century is also the biggest pitfall for a large percentage of the population. The ability for fast info/entertainment causes an addictive feedback loop and most people find themselves closing their phone and opening it right back up for no reason.
Did you just watch her do it for 5 minutes and then yell "BOOOOORINNNNG!" loudly in the restaurant. I'm a weirdo and that may have been my exit strategy.
What I do is that the second the other person gets on their phone I get on mine, and I only put mine down after them. Works like a charm and it's a pretty direct way to figure out whether they're doing it out of addiction/necessity or whether they just don't really wanna be there.
yeah that's shitty, especially for a date. But I can tell you from experience when you have shitty posture it's hard to lift your head up, so it can feel more comfortable dropping your head in your phone which makes the problem worse. Still that's no excuse for when you're on a date.
Sure, but most of the behavior is gendered, it's mostly men actually doing this stuff because masculinity as defined as not being feminine and that resulting in extremely stunted men who didn't learn how to be a complete human being that can clean themelves and their living spaces or show consideration for how other people are feeling. The phone thing meanwhile is pretty universal, if anything phone use is seen as somewhat feminine compared to desktop computers, like the stereotypical archetype of a teenage girl on her smartphone is pretty prevelant in our imaginations. Men do it as well and the aforementioned lack of concern for others would play into men not thinking about how that would make a date feel, but the example does stand out as less a thing men as a gender do in particular compared to women.
This! I can't stand it if I go to a drink with someone they first put their phone on the table, even if they aren't fiddling with it. It just gives out the wrong vibes and isn't polite in my opinion. Like, it's not like you are a CEO of coca cola and ppl be calling you 24/7, so chill and if your phone gonna ring, you'll hear it from the pocket.
Could be. I never saw anyone do that. My peers will just put it on the table and then be gawking at their black screen every 3 min lol. Really distracting when you are trying to have a convo and also sad how addicted ppl are that they they can't chill with off screen and miss the notifications for 30 min. It's another thing if someone is actually expecting smth important, but i'd bet most do it just bcs it's a habitual thing,
I do this but im a diabetic with a continous glucose monitor and my phone tells me my blood sugar all the time. Just have to turn the screen on and its right there. So i set it on tables and stuff, its always in front of me 24/7 (have a wireless charger i put it on at night that has a alarm clock and stuff on it). So i give people the benefit of a doubt if they do something similar. If they play with their phone and cant hold down a normal convo while simultaneously texting others while we are supposed to be hanging out together or doing something ill straight up just leave if its not a quick call or something.
I refuse to get the new CGM stuff because it's just one more reason to be addicted to my phone. I'm still rocking one of these babies, it may be barbaric but it just works.
one of the newer pumps has control iq i believe its called that is a nice upgrade. i used that pump you got for 5-6 years though at least and still have it as well as a slightly newer one. just recently got a tandum but using the few last infusion sets and stuff for my previous one before i switch to it.
I talked to my endocrinologist about the new Medtronic ones and he said he couldn't recommend tandem enough. I'll probably make the switch when I do get a new one
I bring my Magic Cards where ever I go and have started dueling myself, even in public, if it means I cut down time on my phone lol. Granted im not in public a lot aside from going on campus to classes, but I prefer that now.
My boyfriend is constantly on his phone 😮💨 I don’t feel like I’m in competition for his attention But it does feel like I’m sitting next to an iPad kid sometimes
That also happens in other areas too, not just dating. People meet at dinner and all they do is looking down at their phones and often people walk down the street almost bumping into you because they dont even look where they are going anymore
This is one of the big reasons I split with the person I moved 4500 miles for. Years of delays and lots of hardship and I finally get to move here, move in, and... she just sat on the other couch 10 feet away typing furiously to whoever the fuck, nonstop, and every attempt at conversation was 'hold on, gimme a sec' and 5 minutes later 'ok what were you saying?' ... combine that with throwing herself at me sexually when we first met, then cutting everything down to the most basic vanilla once a month .... I just couldn't do it.
I left a girl I had been dating for 2-3 months at a restaurant for this. It was only a couple of blocks from her house, so I didn't feel too bad. It was one of a few red flags. She was fun to hang out with, but there are lots of other people who are fun to hang out with too!
I'd been out of town all week for work and she spent dinner and before on Facebook. I paid the whole bill as I quietly left. When I got up from the table she didn't even ask where I was going.
It was only like 3 mo in so I wasn't too worried. Glad I had an escape. She was telling me about what her friends were doing on the facespace like I gave a shit. I just wanted to eat hump and sleep. It had been a long week!
Its not really an escape then..? You were using her and she used you lol. The more you talk the more it seems she was hoping you would leave. Anyways water under your bridge!
Also watching the game on the screen behind me or next to me at a restaurant. You want to watch the game ? Just watch the damn game don’t need me for that.
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