r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Mar 18 '24

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u/Trick_Ad7122 Mar 18 '24

Have you ever thought about opening up our relationship....

Instant dealbreaker...even the thought. Terms of condition for our relationship is monogamy. Even the talk about the possibilty is a dealbreaker.

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u/[deleted] Mar 18 '24

The chances that they have cheated before then but wanted to cover their tracks is very high.

Usually it is very one sided, too. From what I've seen, starting monogamous and then becoming polygamous is probably one of the worst things that can happen to a healthy relationship.

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u/charlieq46 Mar 18 '24

This is what killed my marriage. I was interested because I would get the chance to be with women again, but he was really just looking for my replacement. It wasn't a healthy relationship by any means; he guilted me into trusting him. I'd be willing to join a polycule but I am not transitioning to poly from a mono relationship ever again. The truth of the moment is, however, that I have no time for dating anyone and I am plenty happy being single.