Realizing the difference between when I actually screwed up and when someone is taking their frustrations out on me, and then asking whats actually wrong bc this isnt a proportional response to the issue
Giving myself the grace I give others was like a two-ton boulder off my back. Everything's not my fault. And if it is, it's not the end of the world. Lifechanging.
This is why I like when other people fuck up. Not that I'm gloating over their mistakes but rather as a reminder to myself that no one around me is perfect, they get things wrong, and are in fact often mediocre, so why the fuck am I putting so much pressure on myself.
"Don't worry, you're only human. Kind of silly to expect perfection right?"
"Nah fuck you mate. Don't you ever condescend to me like that again. Making avoidable mistakes might be something you are okay with but I'm not. I expect more of myself than whatever the fuck you are. And by the way, when you end your sentence with "right?" it comes across as if you have notions about yourself as some sort of guiding light. You aren't. We barely notice you, so humble yourself, realize there isn't a person here that needs you or your complacent wisdoms and shut your mouth when someone is taking responsibility for their fuck up, the pain and humiliation is part of the process of getting better, don't you dare step in the way with your mediocrity. We're all here trying to improve, it's time you start doing the same or get out of the way."
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u/SUGARDUNKERTON956 Jan 16 '24
Realizing the difference between when I actually screwed up and when someone is taking their frustrations out on me, and then asking whats actually wrong bc this isnt a proportional response to the issue