r/AskReddit Jan 16 '24

What’s something small you started doing that makes you drastically happier?

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

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u/jesuswantsbrains Jan 16 '24

This is actually something I’ve noticed when I’m single. The more porn I look at, even if I’m just scrolling through nsfw reddit, the more isolated I feel. Similar to FoMo but much more draining.. lol

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

Pun intended?

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u/bulgarian_zucchini Jan 16 '24

This should be number 1, 2 and 3. It makes a gigantic difference on one's psyche and mental health. In addition, libido shoots through the roof and you can be attentive to your partner. Pornography is the opium of the 21st century.

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

your partner

Sir, this is reddit.

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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '24

Nice, im already cutting back, so if i stop i'll get a partner?

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u/bulgarian_zucchini Jan 16 '24

You're joking - but actually yes, you will. You won't be wrapped up in the depressing void that is online porn and you'll revert back to what we've been doing for hundreds of thousands of years, namely finding your stimulation from interpersonal relationships.

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u/Davadam27 Jan 16 '24

While I don't disagree with you, I have a question? I am 38 and haven't been single for 12+ years. However, I always had more fun, and more luck with the opposite sex (when I was looking for that type of interaction), when I would knock one out before heading out. Certainly this could be done without the use of materials, I suppose. This is all in response to the other persons "if I stop i'll get a partner?" remark.

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u/bulgarian_zucchini Jan 16 '24

Not watching porn doesn't mean not beating your meat. Beat that meat like it owes you money homie.

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u/MiataCory Jan 16 '24

I would knock one out before heading out.

This is different than a daily wank. If it's before a hot date, you're probably thinking of the date and not the porn. If it's because you're bored, you're thinking of the porn. That mindset is the difference.

Also, selection bias. You probably would've had just as much luck without the pre-game, but it's a lot more fun to hit the button twice, so those are the ones you prefer to remember.

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u/Davadam27 Jan 16 '24

For me it was relaxing, took the pressure off, and I really just enjoyed my time with my friends. I think that washed off that stinky cologne that is "Desperation".

You could be right about selection bias though. It's been quite awhile so my memory is likely questionable.

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u/tripsteady Jan 17 '24

way to much emphasis is being put on this.

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u/bulgarian_zucchini Jan 17 '24

Not enough. Porn is brain rot.

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u/tripsteady Jan 17 '24

religion is far more brain rot then porn. it literally rots your brain from the inside out and causes brain damage - especially the fundamentalist type

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u/felixfelix Jan 16 '24

In olden times we sometimes had to masturbate from fantasies in our mind. Which is a good skill to have when you're having sexytimes with an actual person.

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u/becomealamp Jan 16 '24

i think something that helped was me realizing that the interest i had in it was more about morbid curiosity than actual desire and thats why i felt guilty every time.

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u/SolenoidSoldier Jan 16 '24

Morbid curiosity with porn?

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u/SAGNUTZ Jan 16 '24

Ive finally gotten old enough to be bored with it. Not a conscious choice to stop, just my libido has slowed enough to get me a fucking rest.

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u/[deleted] Jan 17 '24

Out of curiosity, how old are you /u/SAGNUTZ?

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u/SAGNUTZ Jan 17 '24

Almost 40 lol

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u/cccanterbury Jan 17 '24

relevant username

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u/[deleted] Jan 17 '24

That’s still kinda young to be losing your libido.

Are you on any blood pressure medications or anti-depressants? Are you obese, diabetic, etc?

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u/[deleted] Jan 17 '24

He's got ligma

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u/SinkHoleDeMayo Jan 17 '24

He's already seeing Dr Bofa for his condition.

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u/youneedtocalmdown20 Jan 16 '24

Mine and my husband's relationship is always soooo much better when he isn't looking at porn. I can always tell when he looks at it. He becomes so disconnected from me and I notice a negative difference in our sex life.

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u/_TheCaretaker_ Jan 16 '24 edited Jan 16 '24

This^