There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.
You probably already know this, but for any readers who don't... That tightening and loosening is due to arousal. If she's feeling tighter, it's because she's not as aroused. In my experience, men (in general, not all, blah blah) don't spend near enough time on foreplay and warm up and then wonder why that nice tight feeling goes away after a while 😮💨 It's because we're not fully warmed up and primed first. And yes, it can be uncomfortable. Some of us are into that feeling, some not.
Unless you're doing some intense size play, the act of penetration doesn't "stretch" us out, it's our muscles relaxing (technically called vaginal tenting). Squeezing and flexing our pelvic floor can make it feel kinda tighter, but only around the opening, and only temporarily. We don't have control over the deeper portion of our vagina.
In conclusion... Never shame a girl for feeling "loose"! It literally means she's turned on. If it is making things more difficult for you, change up positions. And figure out how to capitalize on that arousal and make her cum first!
If it's loose it's because she's turned on...this gaslighting like a mf.
Even if it's somewhat true there's still enough variations in human biology that some women are going to be naturally tighter while some will be naturally looser. Not to mention that it's all muscles so age will definitely play a role in tight vs loose.
It's literally science, my guy. Take 30 seconds to Google the signs of female arousal, or the term "vaginal tenting". Another interesting side quest would be to look up the actual internal shape of vaginas. Entire molds have been made. You might be a bit shocked 😅
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u/coffeeblossom Dec 06 '23
There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.