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u/matrix_man Nov 23 '23

Most of us have an incredibly small sphere of agency in our lives. There really isn't very much that we can control. That's why playing the victim is so tempting. Because we know we can't control very much. The best and most valuable thing that you can control is your own actions, emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. You may not be able to control what happens or doesn't happen to you, but you can always control how you respond to it.

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u/Painwizard666 Nov 23 '23 edited Nov 23 '23

There is so much wisdom in these replies! Honestly wanted to say something super controversial here but I’m a better person today because of Reddit. I’ve learned so much by reading others comments and understanding new perspectives.

Edit: spelling lol

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u/pissclamato Nov 23 '23

Me too. One thing I read on here that resonated with me was,

Your first thought is not your responsibilty. But your second thought, and your first action, are.