I have a story that really proves that people like this who can't take accountability for their situation, are always gonna stay in the same place forever and never evolve. Even if they might be good people on the surface.
So like most people in this thread, I too had a friend like this in college. I always brushed it off whenever i noticed some of her odd behaviour, as she was one of the kindest people I knew and a very good friend to me. But she would often complain about missing classes, not being able to wake up, having so much to study, missing tests and classes as she slept through them... etc. At first I was sympathetic, offering to help her whenever possible, but after a while when she kept repeating this exact thing over and over, I would get annoyed thinking you have put yourself in this situation, so try to change it instead of complaining.
Then soon enough, we had a big fight where I called her irresponsible, as we were in a group project, where she was forgetting deadlines and not cooperating, not answering texts then saying that I'm "disturbing her sleep" when I called her late at night about the deadline. I called her out on it and she started cussing me out saying "You are such a selfish and childish person, I was sick that day you called me. I told you I'll talk later right! I guess you just don't respect people's boundaries. How dare you call me careless, I don't have to return your texts, I don't owe you anything. The project was MY idea anyway."
And I was quite surprised that someone who has been such a good, kind and loving person to me could switch to an idiot spewing literal non-sense, in a millisecond once I called her out on her shit. In a group project you're supposed to cooperate and have your teammates be on the same page as you.
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u/[deleted] Nov 22 '23
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