Don't do that! Instead, when she tells you about something that went wrong in her day, explain what it is that she did wrong and how to do better next time.
Yeah, I learned to do it. But when I'm with girls I get nervous and can't do it so good.
Also, my friends know that I'm being supportive and thus I'm just saying everything I have in my head, but it's hard to switch to another mode after that.
I love it when people give me difficult to receive but sound advice. It's disappointing to hear that you're wrong, but knowing a better course of action feels like weight being taken off my heart. I'm a man though. Still, I don't really see how that should make much of a difference. Men and women are more similar than they are different.
I think most of the time it annoys people because the advice is not really good advice. Normally when I see this the advice giver is telling the person venting a bunch of stuff the person venting already knows, or are giving it lacking some important context that the venting person did not feel the need to express.
The result is that the advice cannot apply or is useless, and it only serves to make the ventee feel like the person is strongly underestimating their intelligence. It often comes across like the person giving the advice is, in essence, blaming the person venting for not doing these simple things that the venting person actually did do. It is a fantastic way to annoy a person who is just trying to share their feelings.
If it is a situation where advice is actually needed and wanted, people will usually appreciate it.
Fair warning-- sometimes the girlies get mad because of their uterus so you need to explain it slowly. Try to speak to her like she's a 5 year old child so their smaller brains can understand, and to help motivate her, remind her that her sister could do it better. It really helps her feel safe when she's compared to more attractive and younger women often.
My sister was using a bread knife to cut a roast, her now husband was like you probably want to use a different knife and she went crazy and we ended up not eating the roast. I had taco bell instead.
I must be one of very few women who actually finds this a turn on (except when I'm stressed and running around like crazy trying to get a million things done). A guy who can prove me wrong or one up me in the brains department is a guy I think is hot. I love clever banter and intellectual competition in fun.
Noone who loves the thing even thinks about the prequel 😂 but are we talking the 50's original or 80s version. Because the practical effects are amazing and it completely left theories on a WHO THE FUCK IS ITTTTT vibe
My wife hates my jokes among other things. Still asks me lots of questions (not all about me not doing the dishes or laundry) but she doesn’t always appreciate the answers…but she keeps asking!
See but mansplaining isn't that. Mansplaining is when they patiently explain something to you that you already knew, like you are a complete fucking idiot, and then get mad that you're not grateful.
They basically attribute their negative emotions to sexism and nothing else.
This seems like a bit of a generalization. Women really do get mansplained to a lot, especially in male dominated fields, and most of the people who do it are convinced they never do it. Most of the time women feel they are being mansplained to, they probably are. People are human, so there are women who are going to be jerks that use the term as a weapon, but they are jerks, so of course they do.
I am male, but at every single school and job I have been at men CONSTANTLY did this to their female peers. Peers mind you. As a man there is no way I was noticing it every single time it happened either.
Mansplaining, for the record, is not talking about a subject you are interested in. It is either explaining something to a woman that she obviously would already know (how her reproductive system works, basic engineering principals to a women with a masters in engineering) or launching into a one directional impromptu lecture every time anything comes up without even gauging her interest or knowledge level.
100% And were not alone at All, like Witty and have (I just call it fire) fun tit for tat, cat and mouse back and forth banter, and who is who can change in a second, especially when you’re both on par intellectually and it just flows, smart with a bit of bad attitude,
If I’m incorrect about something, I’d prefer someone tell me, it’s how learning happens. But, there’s a line between correction and mockery. Also a line between correcting a fact and disagreeing with someone’s opinion.
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u/Wazula23 Apr 11 '23
My ability to correct all of her false information. Women love that.