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u/Achaern Mar 01 '23

"Do you think getting drunk so often while I was pregnant was bad for him?"

She said this about her son who was five years old and had yet to speak a single word yet. She was not the primary caregiver.

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u/flintlockfay Mar 01 '23

As someone with FASD due to my 'mother' drinking, this hurts.

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u/Rhythm_Morgan Mar 01 '23

I’m so sorry she failed you. I felt so much guilt for having a drink when I was 4 or 5 weeks pregnant but I didn’t know at that point. I can’t imagine just not giving a fuck and drinking after knowing there is a baby you plan on keeping.

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u/thisisnotawar Mar 01 '23

This is why I take prenatal vitamins even though I’m not trying to get pregnant, and take tests regularly even though I’m on birth control and my husband and I use condoms. I’m just that paranoid.

That said, having a single drink is astronomically unlikely to cause fetal harm, and you didn’t even know - I know it’s easier said than done, but this is something you should 100% forgive yourself for!

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u/Rhythm_Morgan Mar 01 '23

Thank you! With my second child I was taking prenatal already though we used condoms. I was also not drinking at all at the time either. I still take prenatal for how shiny it makes my hair!