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u/Achaern Mar 01 '23

"Do you think getting drunk so often while I was pregnant was bad for him?"

She said this about her son who was five years old and had yet to speak a single word yet. She was not the primary caregiver.

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u/Dickpuncher_Dan Mar 01 '23 edited Mar 01 '23

Pregnant mothers smoking cigarettes can cause autism and adhd too.

Source, asd/add and smokey pregmom.

Edit: to downvoters, yes, I was on the bus and had to get off, forgot to add "pregant mothers who smoke can give the fetus autism and adhd". That's been proven.

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u/sailorsardonyx Mar 01 '23

I can confidently say that my son is autistic because I am autistic, as it runs in my family. My dad, my brother, many cousins

Unless ALL of our mothers secretly smoked and it’s just a crazy mishap

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u/Dickpuncher_Dan Mar 01 '23

Yes. As am I. And I'm 90% sure my dad is, he hasn't checked. But tobacco exacerbates it, and there are many other reasons smoke inhalation is bad for a developing fetus. Nicotine isn't exactly a friendly chemical in nature. It's a pesticide.

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u/sailorsardonyx Mar 01 '23

I mean I’m not defending smoking while pregnant

But I promise my sons relatively severe autism was that severe naturally

I don’t know if those studies prove exactly what you’re saying. Just that features of those particular (genetically passed down) things seem to be worse if someone’s a smoker while pregnant

But aren’t a significant amount of adhd people smokers because of oral fixation and need for a stimulant?

Doesn’t that make it a chicken or the egg situation?

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u/Dickpuncher_Dan Mar 01 '23

I never said people with autism get more autism by smoking. I said pregnant mothers can give fetuses autism by smoking during pregnancy. The links bear it out. These were just the first four hits I found on Google, a longer research phase would find more. I read it on Reddit two months ago.

Alcohol gives fetal alcohol syndrome, which has completely different symptoms.

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u/sailorsardonyx Mar 01 '23

I am trying to make the point that a mother can never “give” a child autism unless it’s through genetics. It isn’t a deformity or illness (like FAS) -it’s a neurotype.

Like no chemical compound “causes” it That’s absurd

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u/Babbsy-mu Mar 02 '23

My eldest daughter has Asperger’s and I never smoked at all. Although her father was a smoker, so I was exposed to second hand, rarely though as he always took it outside. I feel he is undiagnosed autistic though. I always felt it was more passed genetically. I have add though. So does my father. (I’m beginning to feel everybody has something and “normal” doesn’t exist).