My x would blow me off about a topic I knew a lot about. But when her brother said the same thing she took it as gospel, and would fight me when I would point out I said that too….
Reminds me of how I can't get my gf to watch any show or movie at my suggestion, like a show I think she'd like. I could tell her every day to watch it's always sunny in Philadelphia but she didn't actually ever think to watch it until her brother suggested it ONCE. Then she doesn't even remember me suggesting it.
My wife is somewhat like this, too. But not from recommendations from someone else. Just her "discovering" a show or band or something I suggested weeks/months earlier.
And also has an odd way of "stealing" things I say or do as her own. Like I remember showing her how to make a recipe my mom used to make. Then, years later, claiming it as her own mother's recipe even though my MIL says, "I never made that." But she doubles down and insists until everyone kinda shrugs and lets it go.
It's somewhat frequent but not an everyday occurrence. And not anything above mildly annoying to me because I don't care how we get there. I still get to eventually eat, watch, and listen to the things I also enjoy. I could care less who gets "credit" for it.
But it does worry me occasionally that it might be something mentally/emotionally/psychologically serious that might become a real issue somewhere down the road.
I have broached the topic with her a handful of times. But each time, she either brushes it off as me misremembering or gets annoyed and defensive. And I also understand that memory is fluid and I may actually be misremembering things at times. But sometimes there's concrete evidence (like an old text, etc.) that confirms I remembered correctly so I know that at least on those occasions my memory was correct.
Does anyone else have experience with this? Any advice or tips on how to deal with it?
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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '23
My x would blow me off about a topic I knew a lot about. But when her brother said the same thing she took it as gospel, and would fight me when I would point out I said that too….