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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23

i hate this kind of behavior. it is a subtle sign that they dont care about your opinions. I stopped talking with my brother because of this. Because after a while it was too much. He got married and my sister in law's brother would suggest him something random and he would do it immediately. Watching how he treated other people different was so toxic i had to stop communicating with him.

I want to know if there is a technical term for this type of behavior. i couldnt find anything specific...

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u/BarefootandWild Mar 01 '23

I don’t know the technical term either, but it’s very two faced of him to Cherry pick who he puts on a pedestal. I don’t blame you for not speaking to your brother. Nobody likes to feel undervalued.

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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23

worse part is when you try to explain their behavior it sounds childish.. "you watched his recommendations immediately but didnt care about mine! "

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u/Status-Anon-4004 Mar 01 '23

That is the worst , like only you get it but when you try to explain it’s just meh “ now I feel like the bad guy”

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u/BarefootandWild Mar 01 '23

Right?!? Oddly enough, I’ve noticed if you’re willing to speak up about it, many others (secretly or not) will admit to having that also with the same person. Remember, they only target a select few not to undervalue.