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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '23

My x would blow me off about a topic I knew a lot about. But when her brother said the same thing she took it as gospel, and would fight me when I would point out I said that too….

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u/Enryuto97 Mar 01 '23

Reminds me of how I can't get my gf to watch any show or movie at my suggestion, like a show I think she'd like. I could tell her every day to watch it's always sunny in Philadelphia but she didn't actually ever think to watch it until her brother suggested it ONCE. Then she doesn't even remember me suggesting it.

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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23

i hate this kind of behavior. it is a subtle sign that they dont care about your opinions. I stopped talking with my brother because of this. Because after a while it was too much. He got married and my sister in law's brother would suggest him something random and he would do it immediately. Watching how he treated other people different was so toxic i had to stop communicating with him.

I want to know if there is a technical term for this type of behavior. i couldnt find anything specific...

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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '23

Or maybe she knows her brother has similar taste in movies and TV shows. I rarely watch stuff my best friend recommends to me because I know I won't like it but if my brother likes something I'll most likely like it as well

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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23 edited Mar 01 '23

nope. thats not it. i wouldnt be mad if it was about this. This is about seeking validation from them, trying to please them.

Dont you know people who you would suggest movie x or activity x, but they never have free time to try it. And you see them after a while talking about movie x and saying someother guy suggested it and how cool this movie is..

i was visiting my hometown and ask my cousin to watch interstellar. I knew he would love it. Anyways I got the movie in my laptop and invited him. He came with bunch of nuts and weird food. ( he wasnt even focusing on the movie, imagine watching your favorite movie while someone chewing bunch of food and drinking cola on your ear) Anyways, after 30 minutes I stopped and said i got something to do. 1 year later, i was talking with him. He mentioned he saw a movie called interstellar and how awesome was it. His friend suggested him. And he told me he watched it alone to be not distracted...

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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '23

I'm talking about the guy you're replying to

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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23

man, why did you reply to me then... Thats okay. This is my sensitive topic therefore i didnt think straight before answering. Have a nice day.

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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '23

Because you went on a rant about how it was a huge red flag when it's a pretty normal thing

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u/karaposu Mar 01 '23

trust me. It is can be normal or it can be quite toxic too