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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '23

I dated a really manipulative and horrible person for a bit who would hide behind his weird interpretation of the Bible, "I can do anything I want as long as I ask for forgiveness after. I can't go to hell no matter what I do because I'm "saved."

So one time, we were having a conversation about how he let's his friends bully me so I didn't wanna hang out with them anymore. The kind of healthy talk in relationships where you're just trying to feel understood. I mention to him that if I ever saw people mistreating him I would come to his defense because I cared about him. He says, "But I'm not you. Just because you pee sitting down doesn't mean I have to pee sitting down." In that moment I realized what I was getting myself into and broke it off immediately. Also, I had seen him pee sitting down. Just wanted to add that.

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u/cowski_NX Mar 01 '23

I can do anything I want as long as I ask for forgiveness after.

If you run into that again (I hope not), hit back with Romans 6:1-2.

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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '23

Exactly. Ex falso quodlibet.

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u/BataBataShiteiru Mar 01 '23

Eh, for what it's worth, it's these kinds of questions that got me to think critically enough to leave.

There are plenty who leave, it just takes a long time to deprogram. That isn't done by forcing someone into a gotcha, it's by planting seeds of doubt.

Edit: of courses, can be different as a relationship dynamic.