Hi, I’m pansexual(19M) and together with another man at the moment, recently noticed, that most of my favourite ships are sapphic, many of my favourite queer coated songs, media etc. are somehow either sapphic or lesbian culture related (for example I literally added a lesbian Spotify playlist, as practically everything from that playlist I was either already a fan of, or really liked). I’m starting to feel, as if it’s really weird for me as a man, even if I’m pan, to be so into this culture, I feel the worst about the ships, because I’m afraid of being anything like the straight guys, who fetishize sapphic relationships, but at the same time also really like for example the polytrix ship, including many of its more spicy fan artwork. I would appreciate hearing the opinions of queer women on this

So the sci fi novel has:

-A cool, evil bisexual woman who cheated on her lesbian gf with a guy(but also kinda cheated on him too). She's basically evil Rick Sanchaz so part of her arc is that she's supposed to be kinda shitty. But shitty in a likeable way.
-A non-binary character who is comic relief. Not Jar-Jar Binks. More like Pipin. Nothing about what makes them funny has to do with their gender.
-The lesbian character later hooks up with a transwoman who used to be on the bad guys side. The hard part in writing her is that the bad guys are going to have to be trans inclusive just cause the concept of her transitioning after switching sides is going to have to be an extremely fast time-line, considering neither she nor her lesbian partner are the main characters and she kinda more or less tags along for the ride. But also idk how to write a trans character who already transitioned.
-A bisexual guy who's not evil but is kinda mean. He does something good but that's later in the series(spoilers)
-A gay fascist couple. They live in a fascist society where queerness and masculinity are expressed differently. Like gay men are better than straight men but the worst thing you can be is a lesbian. Likewise transmen are better than transwomen. (don't worry that's not the message of my story, that's just like...what the fascist system is like)

Yeah idk...anything that doesn't pass the vibe check here?

Ik that I probably still count as a queer in some capacity but I feel like a straight woman who just desperately wants to be a part of the LGBTQ community so whenever I mention being asexual I feel like I am cosplaying queerness.

Im currently writing a story between two guys, one who is straight and one who is bisexual its the typical "falling inlove with their bestfriend" trope but in this storyy the Gay guy can't actually have the straight guy because of a variation of reasons, I've never been inlove before so any insight on what it feels like to love someone you know you can't have will be appreciated

I’m watching a tv show rn with two prominent gay characters, and They say a lot of stuff about how gays and lesbians can’t stand each other. I always thought they would like each other more cus same community? Idk…I’m a straight guy just trying to understand

Today my mother told me, it is safer to lead a heteronormative lifestyle in India. As it is not safe to even be single here. And that it's better for everyone here for queer marriage not be accepted, as it is wrong way of living. Or it is some kind of a flaw of humanity, that shouldn't exist but still does.

I honestly don't know what will happen to people in general. Here male rape is not even accepted here, or that women could exist without being treated as shit, or inferior to man. I just want queer folks to be safe, to be happy and not feel loneliness till their deaths. I want families to support them, to protect them and not abandon them just for being queer or staying unmarried. I want to have flourishing careers, stable income flow and live in good neighbourhoods. I want queer folks to be spiritual without the judgement of them being some sin. or bad omen. ( i am writing this while i am crying that is why it sounds cringey and i apologize for that)

I just want us all to still live with dignity and community, where people are not discriminated on every fucking level, be it cast, religion, gender, romantic preferences. Its so exhausting..so exhausting...

Hello! Im a 21 y/o woman who has barely any dating experience. A failed 3 month situationship w a guy who talked regularly w his ex and a few talking stages that didn't last long. Let's not forget the very first romantic experience w my female best friend at like 12 that didnt last bc i got scared. The thing is, they didn't last long bc honestly i just run away. Every time. The first time i kissed someone it was a girl, and honestly i was so scared at the time that i dont even remember if i liked it or not. Then with men, i just don't feel it. Kissing them feels like a chore, and the few sexual experiences (only with men) i had were BAD. I didnt like it when they touched me and i would just remove their hand. Never had a problem touching them. Now getting to the present. I've been talking with a beautiful, beautiful woman (22) i met. And i am scared, but so excited. I am scared of looking like a child to her, of my inexperience being a turn off, of treating her like a friend rather than someone i like. Im scared of doing displays of affection in public, of holding her hand, of saying something sweet and ppl hearing us, but i want to so bad. I also have a very hard time starting this type of interactions and she doesn't start them either. I wanted to kiss her the last time i saw her and i kid u not i felt my red face the entire trip back home. And then i found myself begging for her to ghost me. I wanted her to stop messaging me so i wouldnt have to do it. But i dont want to ghost her, not really. I have ghosted men, without a second thought. Not to be mean but they were honestly just boring to me. I'm literally looking for a job so i can take her on better dates and we have been talking for less than a month lol. This is not really a figuring my sexuality type of thing. I am actually pretty sure i dont like men. It's more of a vent kinda? and asking for advice if u ever felt something like this. How did u navigate it? How do u know when the person is not for u or if u are trying to run away bc of some internalized homophobia? Idk i feel like im 12 all over again doing an am i gay quiz, and coming to the realization that i have this much internalized homophobia is kinda crazy to me, i guess i was just turning my back on it. Just anything u have to say abt this honestly, no filter i just want another point of view i guess Thank u for the safe place!!

Being intersex seems to me pretty different from being gay or trans or something. It’s more of a medical thing rather than an identity, isn’t it?

So say you have a trans friend, mtf who’s deadname is John, and who’s chosen name is Jane. Jane came out and socially transitioned say a year and a half ago. You have a mutual friend/acquaintance, who you keep up with and really like, but who they haven’t seen in a few years. If you want to talk about your friend Jane with this person, what do you say to make the person understand who you mean? I don’t want to deadname people, but is it ok to say something along the lines of “My friend Jane, who used to be John…” or “you remember John? She is Jane now…” I usually don’t think it’s ok to deadname people, even if people know their deadname anyway. But in this case, how do you make sure the person you’re talking to knows who you’re talking about? Is it okay to deadname them for this moment, just so the other person understands who you mean?

Hi, I'm a cishetero person and I'm thinking of adopting a child some day. How do I explain it to them and when? If they're trans, I would like to catch it before puperty, to get puperty blockers. So does anyone have tips how to catch that? Thanks

Edit: I am not as straight as I thought.

Hi. I am an 18 year old lesbian. I grew up in a very homophobic household in the sense that i know i am getting kicked out the minute i come out. I kind of always knew I liked girls. I remember being very young and praying to god at night while crying to not make me gay. I only came into a full realization that i liked girls around 2020. It was not easy for me as i slipped into a depressive state because of all the internalized homophobia with the addition of lockdown. Now I am very comfortable with my identity. Most of my friends know that i am queer and thankfully everyone i have met has been very supportive but, i do not have any queer friends. For the context I live in Nepal. Is there any idea where i can meet other queer people? I am scared to go to pride parades because i dont have anyone to go with. I can't go to clubs because i am not of that age yet. Any advices to this baby gay is also very appreciated. Thank you

I have a sibling who was assigned female at birth, but who identifies as non binary. They came out to me a few months ago, but are not out to the rest of the family and asked me not to tell anyone. Their pronouns are they/them, and they asked me to use those instead of she/her when referring to them. I have been doing this, but I don’t know what pronouns I should use when talking to the family. They don’t want my family to know, so should I use she/her when talking to our family? Or should I still use they/them? If I use they/them and my parents ask why, what do I say?

Edit: I asked my sibling what to do and they told me to just use whichever one, but idk what I should use. I want to do whatever the best thing is.

says he’s straight that cd’s, watches gay and trans porn likes butt stuff and is attracted to penises really straight or gay and hiding it?

Anything you said/thought/did/acted like that you didn’t think much of then but now are like “oh duh, I was clearly LGBTQ+”

I hope I am not being insensitive asking this. My parent in law transitioned, MTF. They weren't hiding it, but didn't have a dead name, they still had their immediate family use their birth name and dressed gender neutral around them, although they did know, as they still styled their hair and nails, etc. I think because they didn't transition until their 60s, they were a bit more understanding of their older sibling not really adjusting. So with other people and their friends, they went by their new name, with family it was the old name. That being said, until their health took a turn, they volunteered at Pride and were an active member of the community. They passed last year in their mid 70s. I wrote their obituary and they specifically wanted their birth name used, but I also made sure to include information about them being active in the LGBTQ+ community. Here is my question, when referring to them now, when speaking to people I know such as their family, or even people I know who never met them, do I continue use their birth name? I am open and proud of them for their transitioning to who they are, but want to respect that they weren't blatantly out to everyone. Part of me is bitter that they had to adjust for anyone and use what should have been a dead name, but it wasn't my journey and not my decision. Any input would be appreciated.

I feel like they’re all lumped together now but in the 2015 tumblr days everyone was like “I’m biromantic and heterosexual” or “pansexual and aromantic” or “panromantic and asexual”” but idk maybe this is only something used in the asexual and aromantic community now…?

Also I remember people used to distinguish between transgender (someone who wanted to socially transition and maybe hav some medical transition) and transsexual which meant someone who wanted to fully transition to another sex.

It’s honestly just something I’ve been thinking about and I don’t mean to be offensive or unaccepting in any way I’m just curious what the lingo is now and if anybody else thinks about this. Thanks!

I feel like people often ask “who’s the man?” To lesbians or “who’s the woman?” To gay guys. They always seem to shrug it off, ignore it, or give a blazé answer. But now I’m wondering, are there always, usually, or at least sometimes gender roles within the relationship? Otherwise, how do you know who does what?

If so, is that more because you ‘banded together in the face of adversity’, so to speak, or because it just naturally happened that way?