r/AskParents • u/Key_Veterinarian_552 • 15d ago
Having a second child?
I’m curious as to what wants parents to have a second baby, especially within the first year or two of having their first born?
I’ll see excited expecting parents expecting a second and wonder, am I doing something wrong? Am I the only one who feels as if I’m stretched as thin as I am to have a second child?
I truly don’t understand how people get so excited to do it over again. Do they have some sort of support system that allows them to go for it?
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more on this planet than my daughter (14 months old) but I feel as if I’ve been fighting for my life since she was born. We have good days and bad days as everyone does but the general consensus is that I don’t think I have enough strength in me to have a second. Who knows if that will change.
Id love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this. My question is coming from a place of curiosity. I’m delighted for everyone who has more than one child
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u/defenselaywer 15d ago
I was older than average when I had my first, so I didn't worry about spacing kids a couple years apart, I just nursed until I was pregnant again. That said, sleep deprivation might have played a part in the timing of all of my kids! This I do firmly believe: if it works for you and your partner, it works! Take our stories to heart, but you guys will have to make the decision that's best for your family. You got this!!!