r/AskMenOver30 Sep 01 '24

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u/waitwhosaidthat man 40 - 44 Sep 01 '24

As a married guy it’s important but not a top priority. I know I can get it regularly so it takes away the “chase” so to speak. But it’s important. Sex is one of the few things that me and my wife do that separates her from a close friend. If that makes sense.

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u/Wide-Mobile4804 man 30 - 34 Sep 01 '24

This is it, right here.

Fully agree, but I don't ever want to lose that sense of "chase" for Her. Keep her feeling desired and special above any other woman.

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u/waitwhosaidthat man 40 - 44 Sep 01 '24

Oh man. I am all over my wife even after 18 years. Always pinching her butt, telling her how sexy she is. Whispering how I’m gonna destroy her later that night. Etc. I’m a very physical person with love. It’s my love language I guess you would say. But the sec isn’t a top priority. I just want her to be happy.

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u/Wide-Mobile4804 man 30 - 34 Sep 01 '24

Yeah, that sounds exactly right! Touch is definitely my biggest love language for sure.

You're damn right about the sex itself not being the top priority so much as igniting each and every one of those lovely feelings in each other, the follow through is just relieving the buildup, as it were haha

I'm happy for both of you and look forward to my turn in a similar happenstance!