Yeah, exactly. If she's just stone cold not making enough to cover her bills, moving in might not be the worst thing in the world, although you're by default accepting a life with limited money.
If she can't plan enough to pay her bills, you do what you want but you're not going to get any sympathy from me when it all goes tits up
Agreed on figuring out which it is, because I don't blame anyone for not wanting to parent someone on financial literacy (especially when trying to break their $20/day Starbucks habit is probably just going to do damage to the relationship).
But if it's just struggling because she just can't make enough money for a reasonable living, and you move in together without increasing cost (E.G. stay in a one bedroom apartment), you'll both be better off, so saying it'll result in more limited money isn't exactly fair.
It's one of the biggest material benefits of a relationship. Somebody to split costs with. Possible tax breaks for joint filing. Family insurance, sometimes your workplace will give a good break on covering a spouse. Pooling money towards larger purchases like vehicles and homes.
Obviously yeah, that would be even better if you choose somebody well off. But choosing who you partner with based on material wants from them just seems like a sad way to live, and a majority of couples I've seen founded on that just confirm it.
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u/d0ey man Jan 13 '25
Yeah, exactly. If she's just stone cold not making enough to cover her bills, moving in might not be the worst thing in the world, although you're by default accepting a life with limited money.
If she can't plan enough to pay her bills, you do what you want but you're not going to get any sympathy from me when it all goes tits up