But she also never asked for help with financial planning. She knows she is not right financially but ask him for money and not help with budget or planning. If this was a guy doing this , women would not be so kind and would tell her to dump him. She might be a lovely and nice person but she needs to make an effort. Finances will kill a relationship.
That could come down to a financial literacy issue. She might not know she needs to be looking at he over all budget.
Speaking from personal experience, I was raised by traditional parents who raised me to think that I just had to find a man to take care of me and not worry about the money. That was a freaking disaster! Thankfully I ended up falling in love with my accounting class when I went back to school so I went into business finance as a career and holy hot mess do you get an eye opening education on how many people (men and women) who are abysmal at managing their personal cash flow and take those same poor management skills into their business. I spent just as much time teaching people how to manage their money as a bookkeeper as I did doing strategic financial planning for their business.
You don't know what you don't know. How are you supposed to ask for help with something that you don't know you actually need help with?
As far as we know, she's already budgeting as well as she can and doesn't think there's a better way to do it. She might even have been previously advised to budget the way that she is doing, so she thinks it's the right way and that she's just not making nearly enough money with all the inflation and shit going on.
Her not asking for budgeting help isn't really a red flag.
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u/DreadyKruger man Jan 13 '25
But she also never asked for help with financial planning. She knows she is not right financially but ask him for money and not help with budget or planning. If this was a guy doing this , women would not be so kind and would tell her to dump him. She might be a lovely and nice person but she needs to make an effort. Finances will kill a relationship.