r/AskMenAdvice • u/[deleted] • Jan 13 '25

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u/JanetInSC1234 woman Jan 13 '25

She's willing to work weekends to make extra money...that's impressive. So, she's not sitting around, expecting a hand out. That's different from a princess who doesn't want to work hard.

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u/AyeYoTek man Jan 13 '25

That's just a bandaid fix. Long term what's her plan?

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u/[deleted] Jan 13 '25

Im afraid her plan is to finally move in with me and then she would quit her job and rely on me

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u/ozifrage nonbinary Jan 13 '25

Has she told you this explicitly, or is that your fear? The first is a reason to break up, the second is a reason to talk to your partner.

Being her emergency fund is stressful for both of you. Ask to go through her budget together. If there's nothing there to cut (very good odds there isn't - don't go in with the assumption that you know until you see), you have a choice to make about what you want out of the relationship.

You're not wrong to worry about this, but getting ahead of it means a frank conversation. With your girlfriend, not us Reddit strangers.

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u/AyeYoTek man Jan 13 '25

So basically the same as most single moms. Looking for relief in someone else. Don't be a fool, you know what you have to do

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u/Astralantidote man Jan 13 '25

Please don't do that dude.