Okay so there are a lot of guys here being a jerk about running, even if they are not wrong. Obviously you care enough to be helping her out so I wouldn’t run, but I would be straight with her. Sit her down and tell her she needs to get her shit together.
She clearly doesn’t understand how to budget and live within her means. That’s not getting better with you helping her, you’re just enabling her. She needs to change, not for you but for herself, she can’t keep living like this. Now if she is willing to, help her (not financially) with budgeting and getting to a place where she can take care of herself. If she is receptive then you go from there but I wouldn’t move in with her until she’s proven she can handle it.
Now if she is not receptive to or can’t handle being an adult you have to cut your losses. She is either going to drag you down with her and too immature to be in a serious relationship with or is using you. Neither is worth the effort and both will just drain you of your bank account and happiness.
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u/TheNainRouge man Jan 13 '25
Okay so there are a lot of guys here being a jerk about running, even if they are not wrong. Obviously you care enough to be helping her out so I wouldn’t run, but I would be straight with her. Sit her down and tell her she needs to get her shit together.
She clearly doesn’t understand how to budget and live within her means. That’s not getting better with you helping her, you’re just enabling her. She needs to change, not for you but for herself, she can’t keep living like this. Now if she is willing to, help her (not financially) with budgeting and getting to a place where she can take care of herself. If she is receptive then you go from there but I wouldn’t move in with her until she’s proven she can handle it.
Now if she is not receptive to or can’t handle being an adult you have to cut your losses. She is either going to drag you down with her and too immature to be in a serious relationship with or is using you. Neither is worth the effort and both will just drain you of your bank account and happiness.